Because this is an identity site that focuses heavily on the experiences, not just the words for them, that means there are discussions of how sensitive topics affect identity.

This includes trauma, but also sex, kink, addiction, and religion.

addiction
child abuse (including sexual)
corrective sexual abuse
demons/Satanism
kink
pagan religion
self-harm
sex
sexual trauma
substances

To put it bluntly, we were correctively sexually abuseed as a child for being a lesbian. This and other traumatic factors is what we believe led to our collective identity as a transgender gay man and why most of lesbians are not women attracted exclusively to women.

While the abuse is never described in detail and is discussed only as vaguely as possible and when necessary, it is sometimes relevant to disclose that we have a certain identity due to trauma or due to abuse, or that somebody is a holder for trauma that affected our identity a certain way.

If this site refers to a headmate having a certain identity due to trauma and no other context is given, this is likely the context.

Because we are bodily an adult and enjoy adult topics, some aspects of our identity are informed by topics like kink and sex. Some of the terms we use describe our involvement with kink, e.g. "pellic", "dominagender", etc.

None of the descriptions of kink on this site are written with intent for gratification and none of them are intended to be explicit. However, this site does describe how things like petplay and D/s dynamics affect headmates' genders and identities, as well as the role that kink plays in their romantic relationships.

Addiction and substances are another thing that affect our identity. It is also not always in a way that is inherently healthy.

Our identification with addiction-related genders should not be taken as a wholesale endorsement of everything about addiction. At the same time, though, we do not stigmatize addiction, and we see nothing wrong with identifying with labels associated with our addiction. The same goes for identification with labels related to other disorders, e.g. DPD.

Some might say that, if you identify with labels associated with your trauma or dysfunction, you will never heal.

If that is true, then our system should not use queer labels at all and either be cishet or unlabeled, because all queer labels are associated with our trauma in some way or another, and we experience queerness in a way that causes an inherent level of dysfunction in our lives due to trauma, bigotry, and the fact that attraction inherently has the ability to cause problems.

If it does not hurt us to use labels associated with our queer experience - which would exist without the labels - it does not hurt us to use addiction or disorder related labels.

Spirituality is another thing that affects our identity. In particular, our system has Kemeticists, Satanists, and people who worship the Sun, the Moon, the stars, and the Void.

Some of our spiritualities - e.g. worship of Hathor, Egyptian goddess of drunkenness and sex - involve us having identities (either queer or alterhuman) that relate to sex and substances in a way that posits them as divine.

We also freely discuss the fact that some of our identities are rooted in theistic Satanism, as well as idiosyncratic belief systems of our own creation (namely Void Worship).

A degree of trauma surrounding Christianity may be discussed during some of discussions of spirituality, although it is not the most important thing about us.